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2016 Sanborn Fellow: The Gift of Failure

The E. Charles Sanborn Visiting Fellow Program and the Parent/Faculty Association is hosting a presentation by Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure on Monday, January 30 from 7:00 - 9:00 p.m. in the Lyceum. Learn how over-parenting can undermine your child's education.

Lahey’s presentation will focus on the value of parenting for intrinsic motivation by fostering autonomy, competence, and connection and by taking advantage of personal relevance, desirable difficulties, and formative assessments in learning.

The Gift of Failure explores the essential school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience disappointment, frustration, and failure so they may become successful and resilient adults.

Lahey reminds us that over-parenting or helicopter-parenting can destroy a child’s confidence and ultimately undermine their education. Beyond academic skills, children must develop life skills including responsibility, organization, and manners to become resilient and successful lifelong learners and contributing members of a community.

The Gift of Failure provides specific strategies and advice regarding homework, report cards, athletics, and social interactions. Lahey provides a plan to help parents learn to embrace their children’s successes—and failures.

A Q&A session will follow her presentation. Books will be available for purchase and signing.

Author Bio:
Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. She is an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the "Parent-Teacher Conference" column for the New York Times. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons.

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